Power of Self-Trust 

WHAT MENEKA’S STORY TEACHES US ABOUT WRITING OUR OWN PATH

And that’s when it hit me: this isn’t just a mythic story. It’s a mirror.

Because most of us have been there. Maybe not in a world of celestial dancers and cosmic wars—but in a moment when the world said, “This is who you are,” and something deep inside whispered, “Is it?”

WHY SELF-TRUST IS THE MISSING THREAD

We talk a lot about confidence. About competence. About mindset, productivity, and performance.

But self-trust? That quiet, radical root beneath it all? It’s often ignored. Because it can’t be faked. And it can’t be proven. It just is.

Self-trust is not about knowing all the answers. It’s about trusting that you will find them, even if the path is dark and no one else is clapping.

When we trust ourselves, we become like that bird in the quote:

“A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because its trust is not on the branch but on its own wings.”

But when self-trust is gone? We over-research. Over-please. Over-perfect. We hold back until someone else approves. We become spectators in our own story.

And that’s not just painful. It’s unsustainable.

THE MYTHIC WEIGHT OF OBEDIENCE

In Kritika H. Rao’s novel, Meneka is not simply disobedient. She’s discerning. The entire narrative pulses with the question: What happens when the chosen one decides to choose herself?

She questions her assignment. She pauses before stepping onto the pedestal. She risks disappointing those who defined her.

And that’s the true threshold: not rebellion for its own sake, but the sacred discomfort of listening inward when the world has already written your script.

In coaching, I see this all the time. Clients who have all the credentials, all the strategy, all the plans—but no trust in their inner compass. They crave external affirmation. They delay decisions. They spiral in self-doubt.

They are not broken. They are not weak. They are simply estranged from the one voice that truly matters.

SELF-TRUST: THE FOUNDATION BENEATH CONFIDENCE

Let’s make this clear:

• Confidence is how we show up.
• Self-trust is why we believe we belong there.

Confidence can be coached. But self-trust? That’s a reclamation.

When we rebuild it, we don’t just stand taller. We lead differently. Not from fear. Not from hustle. But from rooted, quiet power.

And here’s what makes it radical: self-trust doesn’t always look like certainty. Sometimes it looks like asking for help. Setting a boundary. Choosing a slower pace.

Self-trust says: “Even if I don’t know exactly what to do yet, I know I’ll figure it out.”

WHAT HAPPENS WITHOUT IT?

When self-trust is missing, we:

• Apologize for our existence in rooms we earned the right to enter.
• Follow plans that no longer fit.
• Tolerate systems that drain us.

We become expert adapters instead of authentic decision-makers. We’re not thriving. We’re shape-shifting.

REBUILDING SELF-TRUST: A COACH’S APPROACH

So how do we get it back?

Not by yelling affirmations in the mirror (though hey, sometimes that helps). We rebuild self-trust the way we build any relationship:

1. Listen deeply. Your body tells the truth before your brain catches up. That tight stomach? That sigh you keep swallowing? That’s intel. Treat it as sacred data.

2. Tap through resistance. I guide clients through Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), or tapping, to clear the static of fear. A simple round on:

“Even though I don’t trust myself right now, I’m open to the possibility that I can remember how.”

…is often enough to soften the grip of shame.

3. Use NLP to rewire the script. One powerful NLP tool I teach is the “Future Self Anchor.” We access a vivid image of the version of you who already trusts herself. Then we anchor it with breath, posture, or touch. Your nervous system begins to recognize this not as fantasy, but as familiarity.

4. Choose micro-moments of alignment. Self-trust doesn’t return all at once. It comes back in whispers.

• Saying no without over-explaining.
• Speaking up even when your voice shakes.
• Taking a break without earning it.

Each one is a thread. And eventually, those threads become a net that holds you.

MENEKA AND THE MYTH OF BEING CHOSEN

So let’s go back to Meneka.

What makes her powerful isn’t just her divine lineage. It’s her refusal to be a pawn. She doesn’t reject her calling—she redefines it. She doesn’t burn the temple down—she builds a new altar inside herself.

That is what self-trust does.

It lets you take sacred scripts and ask: “Is this still true for me?”

And if the answer is no, you don’t run. You rewrite.

THE TAKEAWAY FOR EVERY CHANGEMAKER

If you are someone who:

• Holds space for others.
• Carries causes on your back.
• Feels torn between duty and your own truth…

Self-trust is not optional. It’s oxygen.

And maybe you lost it somewhere along the way—through burnout, betrayal, hustle, or heartbreak. That’s okay.

You can get it back. Not all at once. But moment by moment.

Each time you listen inward and act accordingly, you remind your nervous system: “I’ve got me.”

That is what makes your wings strong. Not external approval. Not the safety of the branch. But the quiet, resounding belief:

“Even if it breaks beneath me, I can still fly.”